It was as though I was talking to a complete stranger, some bohemian.
Typically, — actively going out — while women get hit on and reactively decide whether to cheat.
In response, I became withdrawn and distant.
We decided to go to marriage counseling.
I think it would be morally dodgy to ask a nonsmoker to begin smoking for your pleasure, given the dangers, so start on a dating site that allows you to filter by different criteria, including smoking status.